Of course! Why didn’t I figure this out long ago? I know how to keep marriages together. Just not my own.
A Brand New Study shows that people’s sleep styles (and positions) says something significant about their relationship – – And could possibly be a predictor of long term marital success. It particularly talks about the proximity of sleeping close with your partner. A full 94 percent of couples who make physical contact with each other while sleeping, enthusiastically state they are happy in their relationships.
However, there are no statistics that apply to marriages like mine — marriages where one (insomniac) mate makes plenty of physical contact with the other (sleeping) mate. Using her fists. And hisses one of the following phrases (or all four at once) a) Move over! b) Stop snoring! c) Give me some covers! d) You’re mumbling unintelligibly in your sleep again. . . something about Suzanne Somers, your golf game and our mortgage payment.
The Couple that Sleeps Together, Keeps Together??
And guess what? Only a mere 2 percent of couples sleep more than 30 inches apart. How do the rest of you 98 percent touchy/feely types stand it? With a Human Noisemaker slumbering on a neighboring pillow, sounding off every night at midnight. I always felt I should put on a pointy party hat and sing, “Should old acquaintance be forgot….” in between all the snoring, whistling, teeth-grinding, coughing, sputtering, fluttering and muttering.
And that was just the auditory portion of the nightly Surround-Sound show. There was a Tactile element too. It featured such sensations as: a) hot breath on my neck b) seismic mattress movements, (that made me check our earthquake supply kit the next morning) and c) getting squeezed in weird, sporadic, jerky involuntary muscle releasing rhythms as he drifted off peacefully, holding my waist hostage.
Am I the only one who believes sleeping should be a solo (Olympic) event? You need the entire bed (court) all to yourself to perform the best stunts. “The Sideways Sleep Sheet Struggle” requires single status. “The Triple Pillow Flip with a Half Twist” is also best implemented alone, with a pillow slip that’s labeled, “The Cooler Side,” of course. Even the traditional “Check the Clock Every Hour to Figure Out How Much Shut Eye You Can Get Before Your Alarm Goes Off” maneuver is not a team event – – if you want to have perfect (panicky) form.
But never fear – – as always, I have a helpful tool that will offer assistance with your Nightly Nuanced, Nauseating, Neurotic, Narcissistic Nightmare:
Miss Menopause’s Screening Test: Is the Innocent, Exhausted Woman Possibly the Problem In Bed – – or is that Thoughtless, Annoying Male the True Likely Culprit?
(Directions: Take this test “in the moment” (in the still of the night) Then Answer “Agree” or “Disagree” after each Unbiased Statement. Always answer loud enough so as to awaken your partner.)
1. This is the polite way of formulating the following request: “Will you turn off the friggin light and stop reading that stupid “Freakonomics” book already?”
2. I would never throw an attractive partner out of bed for eating crackers. But Knuckle Crackers, Jaw Slackers, Pillow Stackers, & Head Smackers (no matter how studly) are another story.
3. My favorite invention would be a linking device attached to the television remote control. Every time “he” changes the channel during Desperate Housewives, the thermostat adjusts up (for my thyroid trouble) or down (for my hot-flashes) by five degrees.
The Couple That Sleeps Together, Weeps Together??
4. Anything he mutters incoherently, (after I insist he roll over) is grounds for next day interrogation. I also think it’s fair (after being kept up all night) to claim that while talking in his sleep, he graciously promised to mow the lawn this weekend before taking me out to dinner.
5. If he is loud enough to be mistaken for a New Year’s Eve noisemaker, it might be interesting to find out what kind of 4th of July firecracker he would make. Putting a teaspoon of PopRocks in his mouth while he snoozes, is the next logical step to that end.
6. Sometimes when my mate is zzzzzz-ing away, I get so bored that I drag the dresser bureau, the nightstands, and the bed (with him in it) around in different positions. I then frantically pull his arm until he awakens, announcing that an Interior Decorator just broke into the house to rearrange the furniture. And now we need new drapes.
7. My spouse has two of the most unusually annoying habits. Inhaling and exhaling.
8. I often politely tell my mate to scooch over just a bit. Then a tad further. A trifle more. And just another smidgeon, yet again. One last inch, please. Whoops. Sorry down there!
9. “Watching the contours of my husband’s handsome face while he sleeps is my favorite pastime,” said no Wife ever.
10. After viewing this scene from a famous show (click here) I feel like he probably had it coming. I also think twin beds are a wonderful invention. But twin beds in Twin Cities would be even better!
If you are one of those people who simply cannot relate to any of this Post because you’re a “Cuddly Wuddly Romantic,” (I’d like to give you an UGH! I mean a HUG!) and if your idea of a perfect night sleep is having your partner insidiously tightly coiling his/her body around you like a Python snake – – please leave the number of years you’ve existed in your happy relationship in the comments section. I have a special prize I want to send to my Reader with the longest track record of
Suffocation Strife “Bedroom Bliss.”