I’m currently divorced, but this doesn’t mean I don’t have a tale to tell about marriage…
“The Perfect Pair For You!” my cellphone advertised. I covered up this headline quickly when my husband (at the time) walked into the room, so he wouldn’t see the screen and make snide remarks about my buying more shoes. Too late!
“I’m not looking for footwear,” I quickly reassured him. “Oh,” he said suddenly very interested. “Heh heh. Perfect Pair. You thinking of doing some upstairs remodeling? D or DD?”
“Shut up!” I shouted, hurling my Smartphone at him, which is always a good idea to distract from the topic at hand with your spouse (insures you get a long lecture about how cell insurance doesn’t cover abuse) Didn’t work. Eyebrows raised suspiciously.
Me: Okay, alright. Not that kind of Pair. I’m searching for a couple.
My Husband: A couple of what?
Me: A Couple. Period. Another couple for us to hang out and do fun things with. They have websites for that kind of thing now — syncing us up with the perfect pair of husband and wife friends.
My Husband: (incredulous) You’re finding us a “Frarried?”
Me: A what now?
My Husband:(Smirks) Aren’t you supposed to be the witty one with words? I just combined Friends and Married and got “Frarried.” Bwahaha! I should be the Creative Writer in this house.”
Me: Perfect. In our new profile under “Interesting Tidbits About Hubby,” I’m gonna add, “Feels threatened so competes with wife in really strange ways.”
My Husband: Be sure and also write, “Must like hotdogs. And the Yankees. And Heineken and …”
Me: Excuse me! But this isn’t “Buddies N’ Ball N’ Beer” Match-Ups. This is for both of us, Mister. Besides I think we’ll make a great Scrabble team against another couple. So just forget about baseball.
Fast forward to our first “Date” with Couple Number One.
Me: Nice house y’all have. So how long have you two been searching for um, for lack of a better term, “Friend Mates?”
My Husband: Or “Frates?” Or “Mends?” Haha! Betcha you guys can’t think up a better word combo than those?
Other Husband: Wow. You really ARE insecure and competitive, aren’t you? You’re on, Pal. Break out our Scrabble board, Ruth!
Ruth: I’m on it right now, Babe!
My Husband: (Suddenly nervous, still hoping for a sports night) Uh, unless you have a couple of catcher’s mitts and bats?
Me: (glaring) Oh no you don’t. No baseball talk. So….Babe and Ruth — how long are you married?
Husband: (Ears perk up.) Babe Ruth?
Fast Forward To Our Drive Home
Me: Clearly we have to work on your social skills. The “How about we get to 3rd base tonight!” line was what got us thrown out.
My Husband: Just a little baseball humor. And you shouldn’t talk.
Me: What?? It’s normal to ask how long a couple has been married.
My Husband: Not when they blatantly announce they enjoy an exciting affair.
Me: I thought they meant a Fair. As in suggesting we all go to a fun carnival.
My Husband: Yeah, I see your point. I mean seriously, who starts an exciting affair but gets so sick and tired and bored with being alone together that they go online looking for other couple friends? That’s just plain weird. I mean for us, it makes total sense, but…
Me: What does THAT mean???
My Husband: Nothing. But for our next new married best friends, can you find a husband and wife who are faithful? To each other.
Fast Forward to Couple Number Two
Me: Happy 51st anniversary! That’s a nice, long marriage. But I coulda sworn your ad said you were married for 15 years?
Wife: Howard says that’s my dyslexia, but I really just need new glasses.
Me: So which one of you loves to surf?
Wife: That would be Howard again. But he surfs the web. I just wanted to make it sound like he was more active.
My Husband: So which one of you is Howard??
Me: (Elbowing husband roughly in the gut.) So which one of you bowls?
Howard: We both put ice-cream in bowls, right Chunky Monkey?
Wife: That’s right, Rocky Road!
Me: And right here, your profile says someone is really into DIY?
Howard: Dessert In Yogurt! That’s right. The little wifey here is a wild thing. Always dunking her “Donuts In Yogurt.”
Wife: Not just Donuts. I’m daring! “DIY” can stand for “Danish In Yogurt” too. Or I can even dip Devil’s food cuz that starts with D also.
Me: DIY. And here I always thought that meant “Do It Yourself?”
Wife: Oh it does! This is strictly a solo project. Howard never helps me dip.
My Husband: Yeah, that’d just make Howard the Big Dip! Bwahaha.
Fast Forward to Our Drive Home
Me: You’re so creative with words….you couldn’t have said, “the Big Dipper?” instead? That could’ve been passed off as sightly amusing and we might’ve gotten to stay and cream that old fogie couple in Scrabble!
My Husband: Hmph. Some long-term married people can be so touchy.
Me: Alright here’s the new approach. Since I’m obviously the better half of our equation, I’ll make friends first with a married woman and get her liking me a lot. Then I’ll lower the boom and mention I have a goofy husband who could use a new friend too. And I’ll suggest we double-date with her hubby. Got it?
My Husband: Perfect. Then you two wives go shopping and the husband and I will go to a baseball game.
Fast Forward To Our Divorce!
Readers: Is it THIS difficult for you to find couples as friends? Tell me in the comments! And just go right HERE if you’re brave enough to shop for other Couple Friends online . . . “Frouples!”